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Resolved Question: PLS PLS Help just had the most horrible fight [a tad long but i need all the answers I can get]?
My bf&I broke up 2 weeks ago [after nearly 7 months] Pros: loyal, caring, supportive, romantic, had a lot of similar interests, comfortable around each other, never embaressed and could talk about anything! Cons: not very understanding, hes inconsistent about his decisions, jealous [which I talked to him about] obsessive [i again told him to ease up but then he'd be spiteful and go extreme, barely any calling, texting] self conscious, sometimes gives me crap excuses, maturity differences were starting to show [especially around my friends, id feel embaressed even!] he expected me to make the time for him but wouldnt do the same during the summer The honeymoon phase seemed to end at 3 months for me after we had our first battle. After that i kept going through phases of loving him to bits to completely needing a break. We barely spoke during the summer because "he didnt have anything to say" but expected me to make time when he got home and I was still away. After not seeing each other for 3 months he didnt make the effort to look me when I got back blaming it every on his dad [which he admitted later was his fault] We had several fights, a break and then our reunion date had 0 sparks from my side [though Id noticed the butterflies dying a bit before the summer] I started to realize i loved him but wasnt IN adore with him so I broke it off face to face because I didnt want to drag him along. I want him glad but the thought of him moving on still hits me quite a bit. We jumped into the friends thing straight away and I felt so upset and numb for days. But i honestly think I made the right choice breaking up however JUST had the worst battle in the world because i was annoyed that he wasnt understanding whilst i was sick for a week he had a measley lil icy. It stupidly built up to us replaying out the same battle after we broke up [me telling him why but him actually being mad and himself this time instead of calm] Kept saying i could never have cared, that I f-upped his 6 months, that he didnt give an f about me, that i wasnt the same person, that he never was going to talk to me again...breaking his promise of friendship. 5 minutes later he was every calm, saying he regretted swearing but "people say f when they're pissed eh?" &wants to talk about it face to face I feel completely shocked&in so much pain, cant find a way to describe this. I never thought he'd be so petty and walk away after a crappy 2 weeks [yes I may have been confused about whether I made the right choice and dragged him a long for the first week but his fault being that he could change my mind but when it wasnt working, put no effort in, in the wish that id run back]
9 Oct 2009, 9:52 am | click here to view more
Resolved Question: How long will it take?
I have been seeing psychiatrists and been on medication for the past 12 years now. Im only 22!! 2 years ago i was diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder along with a few other things. I thought i was dealing with it well! I could of been better but i was managing to receive along!! 4 months ago i decided to give up smoking which i have done succesfully! But since then i have hit rock bottom....for the first 3 months i was suffering with severe panic attacks,extreme anxiety,i couldn't snooze..i couldn't even receive out of bed. I was to scared to go outside... I was living in complete fear. Over teh past 3 weeks i have managed to slowley receive it together.. I am eating better, going out more.... But inside i am a complete mess... My body is so tense,as is my jaw, i am paranoid constant....my heart it racing.... i just want to lie down and go to snooze. I just dont understand what it is and why its happening to me. I have always been an anxious person... But this is to the extreme. I recently got married this year and have not been able to like it due to this. Our honeymoon got cancelled as i was to scared to travel,we cant go out.. I hate even getting romantic as im just to paranoid. Im hoping maybe someone could give me advice if you have been through it or going through it. I am also intrested in theraputic/herbal or natural ideas. To be honest im getting real fed up with the medication! Advice would be very appreciated. xxxx vaughn favrua how can you help?
9 Oct 2008, 12:09 pm | click here to view more
Resolved Question: most gorgeous places to travel?
Please don't say hawaii, i know it is beautiful but i am looking for something with extreme, though natural beauty and a with special rarity to it. This is for my elopement location and also a honeymoon location. My fiance and i have never left the country, can you help us think of the perfect location to travel? Maybe even a place where we could visit something totally chilly... like a castle, or the rock hedges or something really awesome. Your help means A LOT. We are trying to do this in April. yes, we adore beaches. we ove nature and hiking in general. im not worried about a budget
7 Aug 2009, 4:19 pm | click here to view more
Resolved Question: Answers, please? Fiance and I debating honeymoon? Just one small problem...?
Ok, well, my fiance Gabe, who's 27, and I (I'm 24) are getting married soon, and we're planning our honeymoon... We were thinking either the Caribbean, or France. I talk fluent French (I've studied it in school and on my possess since 15 in order to talk to my French relatives,) so we wouldn't have a problem if that came up. I've never been to France although I'd adore to; I'm just not sure I'd want to go for our honeymoon. I laways thought it would be somewhere warm and tropical. Gabe thinks we should go to France though, since he knows how much I adore it. However, there's one thing bothering me... Gabe thinks it's an extreme turn-on when I talk French... and this is nice of stupid, but I'm nice of worried I'll feel jealous if there's other girls talking French and he thinks it's really hot... he's not a pig or anything in any way, and I know, obviously, he loves and cares about me much more than any French girl... but... I'm just worried I'd feel jealous... What do you think? Opinions? Am I being ridiculous thinking this?? What should I do?
6 Sep 2009, 10:46 pm | click here to view more
Resolved Question: Fiance and I debating honeymoon, but I feel like...?
Ok, well, my fiance Gabe, who's 27, and I (I'm 24) are getting married soon, and we're planning our honeymoon... We were thinking either the Caribbean, or France. I talk fluent French (I've studied it in school and on my possess since 15 in order to talk to my French relatives,) so we wouldn't have a problem if that came up. I've never been to France although I'd adore to; I'm just not sure I'd want to go for our honeymoon. I laways thought it would be somewhere warm and tropical. Gabe thinks we should go to France though, since he knows how much I adore it. However, there's one thing bothering me... Gabe thinks it's an extreme turn-on when I talk French... and this is nice of stupid, but I'm nice of worried I'll feel jealous if there's other girls talking French and he thinks it's really hot... he's not a pig or anything in any way, and I know, obviously, he loves and cares about me much more than any French girl... but... I'm just worried I'd feel jealous... What do you think? Opinions? Am I being ridiculous thinking this?? What should I do?
6 Sep 2009, 10:32 pm | click here to view more
Voting Question: Can someone explain how to go about buying your first house?
Me and my husband got married 2 years ago and since he's in the military, we have yet to have & do every the "normal" married couple things (like a honeymoon, anniversary, buying a home, etc)... I'm 20 & he's 21 so we're fairly new to the adult stuff. lol... In short, how do we go about buying our first home? I dont need extreme detail or anything, but i think i've found a home that i really want to take a look at & make an offer on, and i would like to know whats next (tax credit, down payment, bank loans, realtors, etc) And if it helps, we use Navy Federal & USAA. Okay, im not usually a b*tch on Y!A but to the 3rd commenter, NO DUH... And not that its any of your business, but he is stationed in a different state than i live in right now and we have agreed that when he gets out of the military in 8 months, we want to live where i'm at... So buying a home is the next natural step since i know its going to take while & i dont want to rush it.... We're young, not stupid. Thanks
6 Jun 2010, 1:35 pm | click here to view more
Voting Question: What are the chances that I could be pregnant?
Well, silly question, I had sex... of course I could be pregnant. But what are my chances? I intend to receive a pregnancy test in the morning, but I just can't snooze! I am 22 years old. I just got married, but on my wedding night I realized that with every the wedding stress, I forgot to take my Depo shot. So I went ahead and had sex and took Plan B the next morning. I had my Depo shot that same day and went on my honeymoon. It has been 6 weeks since the wedding and I am starting to experience extreme fatigue and nausea. What are the chances that I could be pregnant? Likely or unlikely? I haven't had my period, but I usually don't have my period while on the shot, so that doesn't mean much. Thanks. Also, I have been having odd sharp pains and an odd (difficult to describe) feeling in my abdomen. When I used to have a period, I never, never had cramps.
6 Jul 2010, 2:10 am | click here to view more
Resolved Question: I am just so confused right now?
I'll try to make this as short as possible with the essential details. We are both 16 years old. There's this guy named Will that I've been friends with every my life. We are the closest friends as can be for 9 years now. Around 2 years ago, he revealed that he was bisexual and started dating guys. Around 3 months ago, we were playing tennis (shirtless) and when we crossed courts, I swear, he came close to me and I think he tried to kiss me. I smoothly got out of the situation by claiming that there was a bobcat behind him. -.- I acted that I didn't think that he was coming onto me and it worked. Now, Will has broken up with his girlfriend and whenever he does this, he becomes a huge rebound guy and will settle with whoever there is around him. The huge problem is that I nice of have a secret crush on him. However, I do like girls, but he's the only, I repeat, only guy that I want to have $ex with. I mean that, because I looked at other guys that are viewed as attractive and I felt nothing. So I'm still confused with that. I don't want to be his boyfriend because I think that liking him is just a phase for now and that I'll eventually receive over him and men. Plus, I just want to keep it a friendship between me and him. The EXTREME problem is that tomorrow, he will be staying in my room tomorrow. His parents are refurnishing his home so he has to stay in either his backyard or in my place for the whole weekend.. As his pal, I couldn't refuse because I'm alone in my brother's apartment for the weekend also! I'll explain, my parents are in their honeymoon, and they wanted the home for themselves <.<. So now, I share a room with my brother for the weekend. He has a one bedroom apartment and he's on a business meeting for 4 days. If he sleeps in my room, I'm afraid he will either try to make a move on me, or I will try to make a move on him. By the way, there's 2 beds in the bedroom of the apartment, and he sleeps in boxers. I know because we had a sleepover when he wasn't desperate for adore. Now, he is desperate because he had a one-night stand with someone he didn't know when the last girl dumped him. So what should I do? How should I reduce my temptation? How can I cease his temptation? Thanks for reading! I cannot just flat out tell him that I don't want to have a sexual relationship with him, even if I do want to. I know that the people that have said the words: "We need to talk" were the ones that he has never talked to again and have felt uncomfortable with them. I don't know how this happens, but I just cannot simply tell him. I need a plan.
6 Aug 2009, 9:08 pm | click here to view more
Resolved Question: Did i do the right thing? [A bit long but I need all the answers I can get pls pls pls]?
My ex and I just broke up last weekend, we'd known each other since January&had been dating nearly 7 months [hes 16 and im 18...yes i sound like a craddle snatcher i know] Pros: loyal, caring, supportive, romantic, had a lot of similar interests, comfortable around each other, never embaressed and could talk about anything! Cons: not very understanding, jealous [which I talked to him about] obsessive [i again told him to ease up but then he'd be spiteful and go extreme, barely any calling, texting] self conscious, sometimes gives me crap excuses, maturity differences were starting to show [especially around my friends, id feel embaressed even!] he expected me to make the time for him but wouldnt do the same during the summer The honeymoon phase seemed to end at 3 months for me after we had our first battle. After that i kept going through phases of loving him to bits to completely needing a break. We barely spoke during the summer because "he didnt have anything to say" but expected me to make time when he got home and I was still away. After not seeing each other for 3 months he didnt make the effort to look me when I got back blaming it every on his dad [which he admitted later was his fault] We had several fights, a break and then our reunion date had 0 sparks from my side [though Id noticed the butterflies dying a bit before the summer] I started to realize i loved him but wasnt IN adore with him so I broke it off face to face because I didnt want to drag him along. I want him glad but the thought of him moving on still hits me quite a bit. We jumped into the friends thing straight away and I felt so upset and numb for days but not sure if it was the thought that i was single again [not that im dependable on people just that I guess i really liked the loving relationship] or because id made the wrong choice? He swaps between trying to be friends and changing my mind subtly but I always believed that once a relationship didnt work the first time dont recycle it. What do you guys think :/ No rude comments pls Thanks in advance
5 Oct 2009, 2:54 am | click here to view more
Resolved Question: we used an old condom
My fiance and I were in the heat of the moment and used one of the old condoms in his car...it was out of the package and he found em below his seat...they've been there for about 7 months...i know they are not expired because of the expiration date but what about when they were in the car below extreme heat conditions?! Do u think we were protected? We just wanna wait a little while, we were trying before but we decided we actually wanna like our honeymoon without being pregnant!! so we are gonna wait and try after the wedding! :-) the condom wasn't out of the wrapper...it was just out of the box
5 Aug 2008, 2:13 am | click here to view more
Resolved Question: Where is the best place for a luxury beach holiday for my honeymoon?
We are looking for somewhere which will be nice in May, and is somewhere we can realx and generally be pampered to the extreme for a couple of weeks! Budget isn't really an problem. :)
4 Jun 2008, 1:10 pm | click here to view more
Resolved Question: ahhhhh! no one told me that even a simple wedding is stressful. i'm getting married in september. help!?
i'm not having a wedding due to family drama. we're getting married at the courthouse & having a tiny celebration at my in-laws'. 1st problem is i live in tiny town & we want to receive married at the courthouse there i have to receive my hair done & wedding photos & rent a tux & receive leave 4 our honeymoon. every on the same day & my hair salon is in a different town & my photographer is in a city in the opposite direction & i can't do anthing the day before cause my boyfriend has to work & the day after we will be on our honeymoon. how can i tug this off? don't say have everything at my hometown cause its not possible due to being a tiny town. 2nd problem is how do i tell my mom not to bring my sister & avoid drama? she takes everything to the extreme. nobody likes my sister & her thug boyfriend. she has no respect for peoples stuff & has 3 kids & will have a newborn by then, that she doesn't watch cause my mom or i do & i will be busy & my mom can only control one at time. also her thug boyfriend is extremely rude & cusses to no end and will smoke a joint even where asked not to. i can't have this happening at my in-laws.at previous occasions they have been asked to act right & they don't anyway. she's 18yrs old & he's 22, fresh out of jail for 2-3yrs
4 Feb 2008, 4:27 am | click here to view more
Voting Question: Getting her in the mood in a long term relationship / marriage?
My wife and I have been together 7 1/2 years now. We hooked up young, so we're not even out of our 20's, but frankly she's isn't quite the minx she used to be. She's still drop dead gorgeous, but the flame down below isn't as hot ;-) Now I understand things chilly down with time, and that's chilly. But even just a few years ago, well after our 'honeymoon' stage, we still had some hot times. These days...not so much. Now we've always been pretty 'even' sexually - neither was really dominant or submissive or 'took charge'. But I hear from her once in a while she likes to be nice of likes being taken. I'm wondering what's a good way to 'take' her. The reason I ask is that I don't wanna just toss her on the sofa and strip her down, I know that'll piss her off...and I know this because I've tried it :-) So what's a good method between that extreme and just 'asking'?
30 Nov 2008, 4:07 am | click here to view more
Voting Question: What is or better put in the following passage?
However, after a while, usually two or three days, the "honeymoon" ends and the behavior moves back in the direction of baseline. We call this regression to baseline. It does this for at least two reasons. The first is that parents receive careless and are sloppy in their management of the treatment. They become inconsistent, or they give in, or they slip back into their old habits of being punitive, coercive, and negative. When this occurs, the behavior will most certainly regress to its earlier level of inappropriateness. Second, as the novelty effect wears off and kids tire of this "game" their parents are playing, they will challenge the system by going to extreme measures to receive their way; or better put, to receive the reinforcer (sick as they were!) that were available to them in such abundance before treatment was put into effect, and which maintained behavior at the baseline level. They are still below what we call the reinforcement control of their old ways of behaving (that is, during baseline), and since that is where every of the reinforcer's have been in the past, and since past behavior is the best predictor of future behavior, that is the direction in which the behavior will go; it will regress. As I noted earlier, in scientific terms it is called regression to baseline. it talks about parenting strategies... it doesn't talk about honey moon. it talks about a strategy using in teaching kids. and in the outset, it works and then, the effect is worn off. and then , it discussed why it is worn off.. I would like to know the meaning of better put here.
30 May 2010, 10:58 am | click here to view more
Resolved Question: What are employee rights regarding approved vacation time?
I requested a vacation for 3+ months in the future, and the vacation request was approved. However, it was recently rejected by the same source citing a potential future conference. The issue is that I have already booked hotel and plane tickets for this vacation. According to our HR policies: "To take vacation, employees must seek advance approval from their supervisor. While efforts will be made to grant requested time, your manager must review based on a number of factors, including business needs and staffing requirements." According to our interdepartmental book: "Vacations should be booked at least 8 weeks in advance." Am I going to eat a loss on a potentially non-refundable vacation? What protections does an employee have so that they are fairly compensated? As an extreme, if this were to happen on someone's honeymoon, an employee would potentially have to eat a $10,000+ loss? I'm looking for legal ANSWERS, specifically regarding the "granting" of the vacation, which I believe was granted with written documentation, rather than complaints on the economy being needy and negativity regarding people having jobs. Being fired would help resolve the situation in a positive way with scheduling and severance and benefits, but what are there any legal protections with regards to revoking previously approved vacations or breaking HR policy?
30 Apr 2009, 4:01 pm | click here to view more
Resolved Question: Wedding Photographer Did Not Show?
Hi, would really appreciate any help UK legal matter - Our wedding photographer did not turn up at the wedding - We paid about £1200 up front to secure contract. Photographic Company claim they mixed up dates although every documentation clearly states 29th they claim they thought it was the 31st(Halloween). After a little investigation we found that the owner and "front man" is a pro footballer and was playing a match on the day of the wedding - his photographer is the contracted photographer for the team and was at the match snapping away. This has absolutely devastated my wife and wrecked her big day - to say I am mad is an understatement - a refund just does not seem to clip it - this has genuinely caused an extreme amount of distress and marred both our wedding day and honeymoon.
3 Nov 2008, 9:03 pm | click here to view more
Resolved Question: How can they make Breaking Dawn into two films?
Breaking Dawn was a long novel because of the extreme amount of visual detail and monologue...but when you think about, there isn't much content - there's the honeymoon, the pregnancy, turning into a vampire, and the final battle. I just don't look how they can possibly stretch that into two films!
3 Jul 2010, 7:27 pm | click here to view more
Resolved Question: is he mistaking the honeymoon period for more it is?
My mate has booked a wedding with a girl hes only known since December! He was still engaged to a girl of 4 yrs and he met this girl in a club and dumped his fiancé a week later. A week later the girl in question finished with her boyfriend of 6 yrs. He said his ex was depressed/suicidal and was looking for right time to finish it - nice! Anyway he has been engaged before for a year and was with a girl for a year before that! He has a habbit of rushing into the whole engagement thing but on this occasion hes actually gone and booked the wedding after just 2 and half months of knowing this girl and looking to buy houses after just 1. His family are quite concerned as they had hoped he wouldn’t do this again ie getting a ring out but its gone to the extreme and hes only 24. Whats your opinion?
3 Apr 2009, 3:55 am | click here to view more
Resolved Question: Dubai is it too hot in July or does the air conditioning make it bearable?
I want to go to dubai on my honeymoon in July we are going to stay at the Atlantis Hotel on Palm island, do you think the heat will be too extreme for us to really like it?
29 Oct 2008, 1:03 pm | click here to view more
Resolved Question: Any medical facilities or pharmacies to go to in Playa Del Carmen in case of injury?
We are going to Playa Del Carmen for our honeymoon in a week, and my fiance recently injured his back. He is feeling better at the moment, but I am so worried something will happen while we are on our honeymoon, cause the smallest thing will put him back into extreme pain. If this was to happen can you receive medical care down there? I have also heard you may be able to receive pain meds otc or easily receive a rx for them in mexico as long as you don't take them back into the US, is this true? He doesn't like to take pain meds that often, but this is our honeymoon and I don't want him to be miserable.
26 Oct 2009, 11:49 am | click here to view more
Resolved Question: In your personal experience, what were the earliest symptoms you experienced when pregnant?
My fiance and I are getting married in a few months, but we want to start TTY as soon as possible. We know it can take on average up to 6 months - 1 year, but we're thinking we want to start trying a few weeks before the wedding (because how amazing would it be to find out on our wedding day that we're expecting!!) My concerns are related to: how quickly do symptoms start? We're going on our honeymoon right afterwards and I don't want to be nauseaus the entire time, but is this generally a problem "right away" ? I *know* that it's different for everyone, which is why I'm interested in your personal opinion: What were the very first symptoms you noticed, and how quickly before/after your expected period did you notice them? For example, a pal of mine gets heartburn whenever she's pregnant... another one had symptoms literally 1 - 2 weeks after conception (skin sensitivity and extreme tiredness). Your experiences would be greatly appreciated!!
26 Apr 2010, 3:44 pm | click here to view more
Resolved Question: Um.... let's all marry anime characters!!!! :D?
noooo.... =__= okies I just heard the weirdest story, well I know we every sometimes state that we adore anime characters and their so hot etc, It's every good fun... but still I don't think people would take it to the extreme would they?? I mean would you?? O__o like this guy from Japan... he OFFICIALLY married a videogame character..... called nene http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hsikPswAYUM I mean for one...okay answer these next questions if ya want!! 1. do you think their marriage will last?? 2. was this just a publicity stunt? 3. going with its not, how do you think the honeymoon will go? :P 4. What about kids?? O__o
25 Nov 2009, 2:04 am | click here to view more
Resolved Question: I canceled the wedding, I need advice on next steps?
I got an extreme case of icy feet and suddenly decided not to go through with it. The wedding is scheduled for May 30, keep the dates have been mailed, vendor deposits put down, dresses bought, non-refundable honeymoon planned etc. I feel really awful about every of this, my parents are losing a lot of money on the arrangements, but I just wasn't ready. What are the next steps to make this better? My parents are making me call every the vendors and receive as much back as possible and return every engagement gifts with a note to everyone. I take responsibility for this, is there anything else that should be done? Is it weird if we still decide to take the trip to Europe together as friends? We ended things amicably and are making other living arrangements, but my mom is telling me that its wrong and she does not approve. Any thoughts? the trip wasnt a gift, we saved and paid for it ourselves. Its over $10k and we are still close with each other
25 Feb 2009, 1:35 pm | click here to view more
Resolved Question: How much did you spend on your honeymoon and what did you do?
I was planning to spend about $5000 on ours and go to an island, probably vanuatu. My fiance mentioned that he would like to look snow (we live in outback australia! lol) and go skiing but I wasn't too keen on an extreme sports honeymoon, would rather go snorkelling. Anyway it occurred to me today that he could take a few extra days off work and we COULD do both, maybe we could fly to New Zealand first which is close to french polynesia so our airfares from NZ to an island wouldn't be overly expensive.... What do you think? What did you do for your honeymoon and would you have done anything differently if you had to do it over again?
23 May 2009, 2:40 am | click here to view more
Resolved Question: How to handle tricky In-laws?
Hi Everyone I am writing my family problem first time ever on any forum and it can sound quite similar but I need serious advise. Please take out few minutes and read it and answer if you have something potential in your mind. Me & my husband got married almost an year back. We had a adore marriage as in you can say adore at first sight during a travel. We liked each other and he proposed me there and then, somehow I was so convinced and we exchanged rings in months time. Our marriage was fixed after 6 months and i moved in his place as he stays in some other state alone, his parents live at native place. We spent 6 months of courtship and got married. No major issues in between rather he is a very caring and loving person. I am also a very sensitive person by nature but yes not a dumb. every in every we were glad couple. Now there are few things to be understood before i mention the actual issue 1. He is only kid of his parents & they are obsessed with him(please take it literally i mean it, as they can's share him) 2. He is 5 years elder to me 3. We belong to same religion and state but still different cultural background 4. I arrive from defense back ground family and city groomed girl and his parents as quite orthodox Now the problem started the day i landed my in law's place after marriage. My mom in law (MIL) started cursing my parents and started crying and lot of unnecessary issues created. I couldn't understand what's happening and why because she used to be very loving and mature before marriage. She even screwed our honeymoon and called us back in one day and my visit to my parents home by making so many calls and we had to arrive back in couple of hours. Finally. after every this me & husband went to our home in city were we work. Now scenario started being dramatic she started crying daily on phone and my husband & her used to be on phone always. Then i asked my husband lets call your parents here for sometime as they are missing you terribly. It was biggest mistake i ever did. They came there by saying for month or two and never went back. There has constant issues, sarcasm, humiliation & scenes created to make me feel embarrassed & curse my parents. Surprisingly my husband either avoids the situation or start taking his parents side. Issues can start from my job, to my salary, my friends, character and so onnnnnn... Last month my husband got transfer we have shifted to New York, they could not join us as company didn't sponsor them. I thought things would be better but still my mom keep eating my husbands ear and finding reasons to create misunderstanding between us. Lately she was convincing him to leave me and every bullshit. Now the problem is even if i keep quite every second day their is some issue she breeds. After i reacted in previous few days which i never did earlier my husband st-oped asking me explanations but environment at home is still not Very warm. We are herein NY for another couple of years, hopefully my in laws are not expected here soon. I seriously want to help improve this how? Or should i take separate way with my husband and tell him I can't adjust with them. Please suggest before some extreme situation occurs. Thanksx
23 Jul 2010, 8:41 am | click here to view more
Resolved Question: The Biggest Wedding? What do I not know? EDIT!?
I copy pasted the following text from a previous question of mine because of negative answers regarding financial issues. Before you tell me to "downsize my plans", hear me out: I am NOT getting married =) I'm just a wedding enthusiast as you might say =) I just want to know if I'm missing anything here! What have you guys heard of/taken part of? I have been studying weddings from every over the world for example Chinese and Indian weddings and I just adore this stuff! The thing is, there are so many things you can read about traditions from other civilitations, but there is never a "complete list" of the american wedding. So, I will ask again, purely for research and entertainment purposes, indulge me please: In the most extreme weddings, what "other" events are there except for the big day itself? I have seen so many different versions of these but nobody seems to do every of them. If you were to toss every of these "extra" events in, what are they and in what order would you have them? Examples of extra events I've seen: Bridal Shower Bachelorette party bachelor party spa day for girls golf outing for nearest families dress/tux fittings some sort of outing for groom & groomsmen for example paintball rehearsal dinner brunch the day before or after wedding engagement party cocktail party/dinner/lunch for nearest families sometime before wedding brunch or something after couple comes home from honeymoon "welcome ceremonies" for out-of-state relatives I´m pretty sure I´m forgetting something I've arrive across. But if you were to go every out, and have every the extras, what would your list look like? What events am I forgetting or don´t know about?
23 Aug 2009, 9:14 pm | click here to view more
Resolved Question: He is not ready, but willing!?
I have been together with my partner for 2 years and 4 months now. Shortly after we met, he told me he wanted to grow old with me. I have ever since wanted to receive engaged and eventually receive married. Further down the line, when the so called "honeymoon period" of our relationship was over, it turned out that he had some undelying psychoclogical issues - he had been "engaged" before, but it was more of an arrangemeent with his ex to try to fix the otherwise doomed relationship. last attempt in every or nothing style scenario. in those circumstances, it failed. I understand that for him it would be difficult to take this step with me because he would be afraid the history might repeat itself. Everytime we've had this discussion, he'd tel me he'd receive there, he needs some time, or he cannot do it now coz I've spoken to him about it etc.. Yesterday, however, we had a discussion, followed by an argument, followed by making up and every that. After the storm, he told me he was not ready. OK. what do I do now? you look, it looks to me like he was not being honset with me for some 2 years, and he was giving me the wrong signals every this time, so naturally I had my hopes and my dreams. Only now he was honest eenough to tell me he was not ready. Now in this situation we look a lady who wants to be commited, and a guy who is not ready to... I know that mathematically we have 2 different positions, so technically we should go our separate ways. but I want to try, I want to give him time and space to receive his head around it , he told me he needed it. I am a hurt in this situation as while he is taking his time, I have every these destructive, negative thoughts. I want to hit both targets: give him time, and spare myself a heartache. Something has to give, so I was thinking of refocusing my attention: I am a person of extremes so I need to be careful, but it is something that goes along the lines of: if I adore him, I should be able to give him time and not pressure him. He has made it more than clear that he wants to receive married, and that he loves me. and that we are going to be just fine. I know that technically we are living like in a marriage: minus the ring and minus the paper, so cynical me asks: what is there to receive ready for? we are living like a married couple already. Something that my brain does not understand. I would like to hear people's thoughts on this: what is the best thing for me to do? how do i keep myself and give him time? your opinions will be greatly appreciated. Nat x
22 May 2009, 2:49 am | click here to view more
Resolved Question: Any of these hard rock bands / artists make any famous "well known" mainstream music?
I know there are a lot of people who would say a lot of these bands are good but what im looking for is someone to tell me which bands have made famous songs that are well known or one hit wonders. Just name the band. You don't have to name the tune. Thank you everybody. · Damn Yankees · Daniel Lioneye · Danger Danger · Dangerous Toys · Danzig · Dark New Day · The Darkness · Deadsy · Deep Purple · Derek and the Dominos · Rick Derringer · Divlje Jagode · Dokken · Dr. Sin · doin' your mom · Earshot · Easy Action · Edgar Winter Group · Elf · Europe · Evans Blue · Eleven · Extreme · Exxótica · Faces · Foghat · Lita Ford · Foreigner · Free · Ace Frehley/Frehley's Comet · Funeral of wish · Gamma · The Georgia Satellites · Giant · Gillan · Girlschool · Giuffria · Golden Earring · Gorky Park · Grand Funk Railroad · Great White · Griva · Gotthard · Gun · The Glitterati · Sammy Hagar · Halestorm · Hanoi Rocks · Hardline · Hear 'n Aid · Heart · Helix · Honeymoon Suite · Hollywood Rose · Humble Pie · Jackyl · Jackviper · James Gang · Janis Joplin · The Jeff Beck Group · Jet · Jethro Tull · Joan Jett & the Blackhearts · Jozlin Bones · Kabát · Kerber · King's X · Kingdom arrive · The Kinks · Kix · Krokus · L.A. Guns · La Renga · Leatherwolf · Lordi · Loudness · Loverboy · Mahogany Rush · Marshall Tucker Band · MC5 · Michael Schenker Group · Molly Hatchet · Monster Magnet · Montrose · Gary Moore · Mott the Hoople · Mountain · Mr. Big · Nashville Pussy · Nazareth · Nelson · Night Ranger · Ted Nugent · Oficina G3 (early) · Osmi Putnik · The Parlor Mob · Pink Cream 69 · Plan Nine · Poison · Pretty Boy Floyd · Pride Tiger · Raging Slab · Rainbow · Ram Jam · Ratt · Raven · Red Rider · Rentrer en Soi · REO Speedwagon · Reuben · Rhino pail · Riblja Čorba · Ribozyme · Riot · The Rollins Band · Rose Tattoo · Rough Cutt · Rush · Samson · Scorpions · Sensational Alex Harvey Band · Shakra · Sheriff · Shinedown · Siam Shade · Skid Row · Slade · Slash's Snakepit · Billy Squier · Status Quo · Steeler · Steel Panther · Steppenwolf · Steve Miller Band · rock Sour · Stryper · Styx · Submersed · Survivor · Sweet · T.Rex · Tesla · Theory of a Deadman · Thin Lizzy · Thousand Foot Krutch · George Thorogood & the Destroyers · Thunder · TNT · Tokyo Blade · La Trampa · Triumph · Trooper · Trust · The Tubes · Turbonegro · Trapeze · Trixter · Tygers of Pan Tang · UFO · Union · Uriah Heep · Steve Vai · Vandenberg · Vanilla Ninja · Vixen · Vow Wow · W.A.S.P. · Joe Walsh · Warlock · Wet Willie · White Lion · Whitesnake · Wolfmother · Wolfsbane · Y&T · The Yardbirds · Neil Young · Frank Zappa & the Mothers of Invention [4] · ZZ Top
22 Feb 2010, 2:53 pm | click here to view more
Resolved Question: what is to better put in the following passage?
However, after a while, usually two or three days, the "honeymoon" ends and the behavior moves back in the direction of baseline. We call this regression to baseline. It does this for at least two reasons. The first is that parents receive careless and are sloppy in their management of the treatment. They become inconsistent, or they give in, or they slip back into their old habits of being punitive, coercive, and negative. When this occurs, the behavior will most certainly regress to its earlier level of inappropriateness. Second, as the novelty effect wears off and kids tire of this "game" their parents are playing, they will challenge the system by going to extreme measures to receive their way; or better put, to receive the reinforcer (sick as they were!) that were available to them in such abundance before treatment was put into effect, and which maintained behavior at the baseline level. They are still below what we call the reinforcement control of their old ways of behaving (that is, during baseline), and since that is where every of the reinforcer's have been in the past, and since past behavior is the best predictor of future behavior, that is the direction in which the behavior will go; it will regress. As I noted earlier, in scientific terms it is called regression to baseline.
22 Aug 2008, 12:07 am | click here to view more
Resolved Question: Could I really have Type 1 Diabetes?
About 3 weeks ago, I went to my primary doctor because I had what I believed to be a sinus infection, my heart beat was also pretty quick, as well as my respiratory rate. When I got there, they did my vitals, and said my heart beat was 150. They checked my lungs and said I sounded a little stuffy, and that I needed to have x-rays done. Before I went downstairs, my doctor decided to take my blood sugar, which at the time, was 112 (keep in mind I was sick, which raises blood sugar levels at times.) I went downstairs, where I found that I couldn't manage to breathe anymore. I went back up stairs, where they rushed me to the emergency room. By the time I got settled in and the nurses checked my blood sugar again, it was 409. At 1:30pm, I was 112, not a diabetic; at 4pm, I was 409, and a diabetic. I hadn't eaten or drank anything between 1pm and 4pm and I had been walking from the x-ray room back to my primary's office. I asked the nurses/doctors why that was, and they had absolutely no answer/reason for how it happened. They simply told me that I was a Type 1 Diabetic (the first time I was ever diagnosed) and left the room. They transported me to another hospital, where I met with an endocrinologist who believed I had diabetes for months as of then. The thing was, I had absolutely no symptoms once so ever, no extreme thirst, or constant need to go to the bathroom. I had felt fine up to that point - other than my runny nose and headache - and had no idea I was a diabetic in the least bit. I'm home now, and have been injecting myself with insulin ever since. So far, my blood sugars have remained in the low 80's to the mid 60's. I have yet to go over 300, and I have barely even touched the 200's. They have reduced my insulin intake twice already, and have started me on vitamin D as well as Zinc, mainly because when they did blood work, it showed that my immune system was very low. Unfortunately, none of the specialists hold any wish of me ever growing out of this disease, or simply curing it. They tell me it will be a constant part of the relax of my life, and that I will have to manage it. Against what they have said, there has to be a way. From what I know, my case is pretty special. Most people have either had symptoms, or have the disease running in the family, neither of which I have. I am only 15 years old, I am a juvenile, and at one point I was around 15 pounds overweight. I dropped that weight conditioning for winter track, - healthy diet, rigorous exercise - over about a 2 month period. Before that day 3 weeks ago, I was healthy, glad, and enjoying life. Now, I can hardly stand behind the three of those things. Against what many people say, diabetes does shape your life, even if you don't let it. You are forced to stick to a strict regimen, count your food constantly, prick your fingers without mercy, and inject yourself. This is not the life I want to live, in fact, no diabetic wants to live this way. So, now that you have a summary of my situation, is there the possibility that I don't have diabetes Type 1? Could it be something else? If so, what? Are there any known remedies that can jumpstart the pancreas or maybe help it along? (I am currently in the honeymoon phase.) Also, can your pituitary gland have anything to do with shutting your pancreas down, or perhaps restricting its growth compared to the relax of your body? What about hormones in general? Thank you so much for reading my question! =) And for you other diabetics, don’t give up wish! Also, my period has been out of whack as well. First, it started coming tardy, then it came whenever it pleased, now I haven't gotten it at every. This has to be hormones right? When I first got it 3 years back, it came on a regular schedule (like the 5th of every month.) That lasted up until about 4 months ago. Could this have anything to do with it?
20 Nov 2009, 8:26 pm | click here to view more
Voting Question: Cold Sore Cures?
I receive icy sores a few times a year, I know others receive them worse but they are so annoying. My main concern is my wedding, I dont want to have one for my wedding picture or my honeymoon..Someone told me to take extreme doses of L-lysine, has anyone tried this, does it work, is it safe? What is the recommended amount? The doses I have heard just seem unsafe to me..any input?
20 May 2008, 11:24 am | click here to view more
Resolved Question: Wedding etiquette; How do I ask my mom to chip in & pay for my wedding?
Long story short... Im 27. Getting married next May 2010! This is my 1st wedding! My mom, who hasent offered to pay for ANYTHING for MY wedding has announced she too will be getting married (for the 4th time) in September this year. She is notorious for "stealing my thunder". She is spending a lot of money trying to "out-do" us. However, doesnt know where our wedding will really be. She hasent offered to pay for ANYTHING. She has not bought my dress, or anything! HOW can I ask her casually if she will help chip in for my wedding? I want to be polite, and not cause an argument. She LOVES to bitch at me about anything and everything. Truth be told, our wedding is estimated at about 10k. And I could really use some "help". Its not that she doesnt have the money, because I know she DOES! She is insanly cheap! To the EXTREME! She will buy faux flowers for my bouquet, when we live in HAWAII! Flowers are EVERYWHERE! What can I do? I really need advise on how to approach this! We have the money for the wedding to pay for it ourselves, but it would be nice if she would pay for at least the REHERSAL dinner, so we can use SOME money for a honeymoon! Why is it everyone says we should pay for it every? READ The question, idiots!!! I AM paying for the WHOLE THING! I want to know how to ask if she will pay for the REHERSAL dinner! Its the LEAST she can do since she's planning her now 4th wedding and cannot act the LEAST bit interested in MY 1st! Im her ONLY daughter! And, FYI: I am a mom too! and when my son is old enough to receive married (he is 3) I would be GLAD to assist financially so he and his wife can have the wedding of their dreams! My mom is not struggling in ANY shape or form with regard to the ECONOMY! And she has a very good paying job where she makes good money and CAN financially afford to help! Im NOT asking your opinions on why she SHOULDNT ask. Im wondering what the appropriate way to ASK will be! I feel sorry for anyone who thinks that for some reason IM in the wrong here, considering the situation!
20 Jul 2009, 9:49 pm | click here to view more
Voting Question: Is this normal for a relationship after 3 months?
My boyfriend and I are in our senior year of college. We have been dating for about 3 months. He is a very nice guy, extremely smart, handsome, pretty much every quality that a girl would want to find in a boy. After 3 months I feel like we are every ready comfortable in our relationship. Right now we are living the summer away from each other. About a 4 hour car ride. We can't look each other every the time but we do try. The distance and time apart make it difficult starting new conversations every day on the phone. I'm just worried because I got out of a relationship of 1 year about 8 months ago and I feel like guys break up with me for the same reasons. I'm bubble (not to the extreme), very nice, ask questions, smart, concerned for other people's problems, and maybe not the most confident person in the world so some of my insecurities are shown, however I try not to dwell on them. I feel like I can't be myself in order to receive a guy to like me.. or they lose interest in me. These qualities that I have always make people disagree with me, sometimes they say are like you act weird, that I'm too nice. I guess my question really is, do guys like girls who are mean or have some attitude? Is it also normal for relationships to not be as much in the "honeymoon" phase after 3 months? I feel I always work so much harder than the guy and I don't know how else to act. I really like this guy a lot. I just want to know what's right and normal for at this stage and situation that we are in.
19 Jul 2009, 11:02 pm | click here to view more
Resolved Question: The Biggest Wedding? What do I not know?
In the most extreme weddings, what "other" events are there except for the big day itself? I have seen so many different versions of these but nobody seems to do every of them. If you were to toss every of these "extra" events in, what are they and in what order would you have them? Examples of extra events I've seen: Bridal Shower Bachelorette party bachelor party spa day for girls golf outing for nearest families some sort of outing for groom & groomsmen for example paintball rehearsal dinner brunch the day before or after wedding engagement party cocktail party/dinner/lunch for nearest families sometime before wedding brunch or something after couple comes home from honeymoon "welcome ceremonies" for out-of-state relatives I´m pretty sure I´m forgetting something I've arrive across. But if you were to go every out, and have every the extras, what would your list look like? What events am I forgetting or don´t know about?
18 Aug 2009, 10:06 pm | click here to view more
Resolved Question: does anyone like the author james patterson?
i have to say he is my favourite author. books by him i have are 1.four blind mice 2.roses are red 3.violets are blue 4.jack and jill 5.cat and mouse 6.big bad wolf 7.1st to die 8.2nd chance 9.3rd degree 10.4th of july 11.5th horseman 12.6th target 13.7th heaven 14.hide and seek 15.the quickie 16.cross 17.double cross 18.mary, mary 19.london bridges 20.the beach home 21.along came a spider 22.kiss the girls 23.maximum ride:the angel experiment 24.maximum ride:schools out forever 25.maximum ride:saving the world and other extreme sports 26.maximum ride:the final warning 27.life guard 28.judge and jury 29.the lake home 30.pop goes the weasel 31.when the wind blows 32.step on a crack 33.midnight club 34.honeymoon
17 Sep 2008, 2:49 pm | click here to view more
Resolved Question: Can anyone give me a link to the map of the Toronto Islands map given at the ferry terminal?
Can anyone give me a link to the map of the Toronto Islands map given at the ferry terminal? or one that looks extremely similar? if it helps here's an extreme close-up of a tiny section of the map: http://z.about.com/d/honeymoons/1/5/N/3/1/09nude.jpg thnx soo much!! :)
17 Nov 2008, 11:41 pm | click here to view more
Resolved Question: Where will be hot for our honeymoon, help please?
We are getting married at the end of February. I would really adore to go somewere that it actually feels hot not just warm (if this is at every possible). I have only been on a plain twice once to ireland and once to tenerife so I am not well travelled. I hoped to stay in europe will it every be icy? We would be flying from England or Scotland, if our only option is extremely expensive places I think we will just go the other extreme and go somewhere icy.
17 Aug 2010, 12:53 pm | click here to view more
Voting Question: How can I get out of this rut?
My boyfriend and I have only been dating about five months. He was in adore with me for a whole year before I finally said yes... he's truly an amazing guy, it just took me awhile to look that and want to be in a relationship again (I was afraid of getting hurt). He adored me and always made it clear that he did. Now the honeymoon phase has been over for a couple months. The getting to know each other and finding out each others flaws has definitely happened...I feel bad because since he now knows that I'm not perfect like he once thought... things aren't the same. Of course the honeymoon phase never lasts, but I still feel bad that I'm not the "perfect angel" he had hoped for. I'm a regular lady who complains and whines and sometimes yes--gets bitchy. We were in the phase where you spend every waking moment together until we started to argue. I finally realized it was because we were simply spending too much time together; we both had stopped doing the things we loved and just would hang out doing nothing together until we drove each other mad with the tiny little things that bothered us about each other. We agreed to spend time apart reconnecting with friends and doing "our possess thing." We spent a week apart and now we aren't hanging out enough. He is forgetting to call me and has backed off majorly.. I know it's because we had been fighting lately alot and he just wants to keep the peace... I feel bad because first I told him that we were spending too much time together, and now I'm telling him we're not spending enough time together. He thinks he can't do anything right... and I feel horrible. But it's just that we went from one extreme to the other-seeing each other every day to only once a week. I would like to look him as often as possible, just not EVERY single day. I just want to find a glad medium. How can I receive out of this rut? I feel bad for my boyfriend. He didn't seem to mind spending every our time together, but he doesn't seem to mind spending it apart either. He does miss me, but he is not the planning type and now that we're not with each other 24/7 that leaves a lot of miscommunication for figuring out when we can look each other. (we live an hour away from each other, but my parents live by him and his friends live nice of by me). How can we resolve this? He doesn't want to break up, but I know he's almost lost wish for us... we had been fighting so often for awhile, and now this situation has arrive up so I know he feels like its just another argument... How can I receive him to have wish again in us and help us find our glad medium together? Thanks for the advice.
16 Jun 2010, 12:10 am | click here to view more
Voting Question: How do I get out of this rut?
My boyfriend and I have only been dating about five months. He was in adore with me for a whole year before I finally said yes... he's truly an amazing guy, it just took me awhile to look that and want to be in a relationship again (I was afraid of getting hurt). He adored me and always made it clear that he did. Now the honeymoon phase has been over for a couple months. The getting to know each other and finding out each others flaws has definitely happened...I feel bad because since he now knows that I'm not perfect like he once thought... things aren't the same. Of course the honeymoon phase never lasts, but I still feel bad that I'm not the "perfect angel" he had hoped for. I'm a regular lady who complains and whines and sometimes yes--gets bitchy. We were in the phase where you spend every waking moment together until we started to argue. I finally realized it was because we were simply spending too much time together; we both had stopped doing the things we loved and just would hang out doing nothing together until we drove each other mad with the tiny little things that bothered us about each other. We agreed to spend time apart reconnecting with friends and doing "our possess thing." We spent a week apart and now we aren't hanging out enough. He is forgetting to call me and has backed off majorly.. I know it's because we had been fighting lately alot and he just wants to keep the peace... I feel bad because first I told him that we were spending too much time together, and now I'm telling him we're not spending enough time together. He thinks he can't do anything right... and I feel horrible. But it's just that we went from one extreme to the other-seeing each other every day to only once a week. I would like to look him as often as possible, just not EVERY single day. I just want to find a glad medium. How can I receive out of this rut? I feel bad for my boyfriend. He didn't seem to mind spending every our time together, but he doesn't seem to mind spending it apart either. He does miss me, but he is not the planning type and now that we're not with each other 24/7 that leaves a lot of miscommunication for figuring out when we can look each other. (we live an hour away from each other, but my parents live by him and his friends live nice of by me). How can we resolve this? He doesn't want to break up, but I know he's almost lost wish for us... we had been fighting so often for awhile, and now this situation has arrive up so I know he feels like its just another argument... How can I receive him to have wish again in us and help us find our glad medium together? Thanks for the advice.
16 Jun 2010, 12:10 am | click here to view more
Resolved Question: Should we move the wedding up?
We were originally planning on August 09, with the honeymoon right after. However we finally chose a venue and there is no shade or covering at every for the outside ceremony. This will be in Phoenix and we went yesterday to look at the place and it was very, very hot below direct sunlight. I am thinking we should book for April '09 or October instead to avoid extreme heat. I like April better so we can honeymoon in the summer instead of winter. Only problem is this gives us less time to keep up for the trip, dress, photography then we thought we would have (my parents are paying for the wedding). I think we will be able to manage it but does it seem like we are cutting things too close for April if we havent started planning yet except for picking the venue? Or should we rent a tent to shade the guests during the ceremony in August and wish it wont be too miserable? The reception will be indoors. I think we can swing the costs for April, it will be a little stretch, but I'm okay with charging a little bit of it since we will stick to our saving plan after the wedding to make up for anything we spent. I am not concerned about the cost of the tent/fans since the venue would give us a $1,000 credit for an August wedding (that is how bad it is...)
16 Jun 2008, 3:19 pm | click here to view more
Resolved Question: Hawaii Island Hopping - How many days on each island?
We are going on our honeymoon for 15 days to Hawaii and plan to go to Oahu, Maui, and the Big Island. A couple of days will be for travel to/from the US, and a few half days for inter-island travel. This leaves us 10 days, plus 3 half days (or 11.5) for fun. How many days should we spend on each island? We both like the beaches, volcanoes, and sightseeing. Maybe a little snorkeling. Neither of us are looking to do anything extreme like skydiving or something. I'm thinking about 3 in Oahu, 5 in Maui, and 2.5 on Big Island. What amount of days sounds good on each island for a honeymoon?
15 Apr 2008, 6:34 pm | click here to view more
Resolved Question: Temporary title change?
Cena is soposed t have his honeymoon soon so i was wondering if its a temporary title change like Batista after Extreme rules?
13 Sep 2009, 11:19 pm | click here to view more
Resolved Question: Was a project damaged by this phenomenom ?
Deborah Hill Cone: Self-adore stuck in an endless honeymoon 4:00AM Sunday Oct 11, 2009 You heard it here first: narcissism is the new black. I predict narcissism is going to be our next obsession. Narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) was invented in 1980 when shrinks included it in their Bible, the DSM-III, and it is poorly understood, diagnosed, reported or studied. But once you learn a bit about it you start seeing it everywhere - especially in the business community. Although I must confess the same thing happened to me with autism - I started to think half the people I knew were on the spectrum. Still do, although maybe I just know a lot of anoraks. Yes I know, I read too many self-help books - and that's how I got interested in narcissism. (Is there a self-help book about curing one's self-help book addiction?) The roll call of narcissists is pretty long. Practically every politicians and lots of CEOs. Pretty much anyone who owns a Bentley. They are not every psychopaths like Clayton Weatherston, but they are wonky nonetheless. Most narcissists don't recognise that they are narcissists. One of the few who does is Sam Vaknin, a PhD and financial consultant from Israel, but it took some pretty extreme conditions for him to be forced to face his personality. (And since there is no cure, that was pretty depressing.) Vaknin wrote a book about narcissism in jail as he tried to understand why his nine-year marriage had dissolved, his finances were in a shocking condition, his family estranged, his reputation ruined. He blamed everyone else, but slowly realised it was his fault. So what is narcissism? Contrary to the myth of the Greek boy who fell in adore with his possess reflection, the narcissist does not adore himself in any true sense of the word. Narcissism is a pattern of traits and behaviours which signify infatuation and obsession with one's self to the exclusion of every others and the egotistic and ruthless pursuit of one's gratification, dominance and ambition. Most narcissists are men. They feed off other people, getting what Vaknin calls "narcissistic supply" - this could involve sex, attention or glory - and it is like a drug. The DSM says narcissism is "a pervasive pattern of grandiosity, need for admiration, and a lack of empathy". The narcissist is described as turning inward for gratification rather than depending on others and as being excessively preoccupied with issues of personal adequacy, power, and prestige. There is no cure for it. Therapy doesn't really help. Psychologists say factors behind narcissism are an oversensitive temperament, overindulgence by parents, unreliable parenting and childhood abuse. "Narcissists feed off other people who hurl back at him an image that he projects to them. This is their sole function in his world: to reflect, to admire, to applaud, to detest - in a word to assure him he exists." But I'm not just saying this to give you a lesson in cod psychology. I can't help wondering if the disorder of narcissism has almost become normalised in our individualistic, status-obsessed society - and don't receive me started on overindulged kids. There is something wrong when the diagnosis of narcissism almost sounds like something most BCom students aspire to. Here's a wacky idea: let's put away the mirrors and start looking at other people instead of ourselves. deborah@coneandco.com http://www.nzherald.co.nz/business/news/article.cfm?c_id=3&objectid=10602200
13 Nov 2009, 10:58 pm | click here to view more
Resolved Question: I desperately need a doctor/nurse's advice on painful intercourse with no infection!?
I got married a year ago (and I had never had sex before) and since then I've had problems off and on. The first started a month after marriage, I had a white discharge and extremely painful sex. My doctor said it was "honeymoon cystitis" and prescribed an antibiotic for a week. It didn't go away. About 2 weeks later it finally began to go away. We were able to have sex for about 2 weeks and it came back. This time just pain. I went to a new doctor that prescribed a pain medicine (which of course was pointless), and the pain continued. Finally about 3 weeks later I got into my old doctor and he tested me for Clamydia and Ghonorrea. Both were negative so he prescribed methanidozale and said I had a bacterial infection. The medicine didn't work. About 3 weeks after I had finished the medicine the pain began to go away. We were able to have sex for about another month and a half before the pain came back. This time it came back with the white discharge and extreme pain during intercourse. I bought an over the counter monistat treatment and it made the discharge go away but not the pain. And here I am I'm at a loss. Over every I've been to three different clinics and 5 different doctors visits and no success. I don't understand why no one can fix this! I need help! Please! My symptoms are only pain during intercourse and sometimes a white discharge. No pain during urination, no pain other than intercourse. PLEASE HELP!!
12 Sep 2009, 9:08 pm | click here to view more
Voting Question: Was it too early to test?! Maybe a little hope.....please?
I am due AF today/ tomorrow, apart from sore breasts I don't feel like I normally do. I have tried this month not to really think about pregnancy that much, but what can I say.... it beat me! I said to myself on going to snooze last night that if AF doesn't arrive during night or first thing in the morning, I would test. I just tested- at 12 DPO and BFN :( I took my temps yesterday and today to look if they have gone down a little (as indication of AF on her way) and its still at 98.5/ 98.6..... Only symptoms I can think of really besides the tender boobs, are really itchy feet and hands!!!!! (this was my sisters 1st preg symptom- but think I am just making the connection), extreme tiredness (just having to nap when I return from work), and feeling really queazy over chinese prawn curry last night (which i adore) Trying not to receive too down about it as Hubby & I are off on honeymoon next week so at least if I am not pregnant, I can take full advantage of the every inclusive. BUT..... can't help not getting a little unhappy that its BFN. Could it have been too soon? Anyone thinking positive thoughts? Grateful for you answers. Thanks in advance & Baby Dust to every of us......
12 Sep 2009, 4:27 am | click here to view more
Resolved Question: Was it too early to test?! Maybe a little hope.....?
I am due AF today/ tomorrow, apart from sore breasts I don't feel like I normally do. I have tried this month not to really think about pregnancy that much, but what can I say.... it beat me! I said to myself on going to snooze last night that if AF doesn't arrive during night or first thing in the morning, I would test. I just tested- at 12 DPO and BFN :( I took my temps yesterday and today to look if they have gone down a little (as indication of AF on her way) and its still at 98.5/ 98.6..... Only symptoms I can think of really besides the tender boobs, are really itchy feet and hands!!!!! (this was my sisters 1st preg symptom- but think I am just making the connection), extreme tiredness (just having to nap when I return from work), and feeling really queazy over chinese prawn curry last night (which i adore) Trying not to receive too down about it as Hubby & I are off on honeymoon next week so at least if I am not pregnant, I can take full advantage of the every inclusive. BUT..... can't help not getting a little unhappy that its BFN. Could it have been too soon? Anyone thinking positive thoughts? Grateful for you answers. Thanks in advance & Baby Dust to every of us......
12 Sep 2009, 4:26 am | click here to view more
Voting Question: Is she pregnant or just sick?
Hello. My wife and I are in our honeymoon in Hawaii. We both got bitten many times by mosquitos. I'm fine, but my wife has nausea, stomach ache, and extreme fatigue. She had taken a couple of birth control pills rather tardy (not back to back) about 2 weeks ago and we wondered if she is pregnant, but she has stomach pains which don't quite fit the bill. Now I'm wondering if it's due to the mosguito bites. Can anyone please help with a diagnosis? Her period is a week away and if she is pregnant, we think she's only into a week or two into it. I know it's uncommon, but her mom had symptoms almost immediately.
11 Oct 2009, 7:38 pm | click here to view more
Voting Question: Medical question. Someone please help!?
Hello. My wife and I are in our honeymoon in Hawaii. We both got bitten many times by mosquitos. I'm fine, but my wife has nausea, stomach ache, and extreme fatigue. She had taken a couple of birth control pills rather tardy (not back to back) about 2 weeks ago and we wondered if she is pregnant, but she has stomach pains which don't quite fit the bill. Now I'm wondering if it's due to the mosguito bites. Can anyone please help with a diagnosis? Her period is a week away and if she is pregnant, we think she's only into a week or two into it, so even a doctor cannot diagnose this soon. I wanted to receive the opinions of others who's been there and done that... I know it's uncommon, but her mom had symptoms almost immediately. 2 seconds ago
11 Oct 2009, 7:32 pm | click here to view more
Resolved Question: HOW ARE THESE JOKES FUNNY OR NOT????????
HOW ARE THESE JOKES silly OR NOT? Black Magic An old man and lady were married for years even though they hated each other. When they had a battle, screams and yelling could be heard deep into the night. A constant statement was heard by the neighbors who feared the man the most... "When I die I will dig my way up and out of the grave to arrive back and haunt you for the relax of your life!" They believed he practiced black magic and was responsible for missing cats and dogs, and odd sounds at every hours. He was feared and enjoyed the respect it garnished. He died abruptly below odd circumstances and the funeral had a closed casket. After the burial, the wife went straight to the local bar and began to party as if there was no tomorrow. The gaiety of her actions were becoming extreme while her neighbors approached in a group to ask these questions: Are you not afraid? Concerned? Worried? that this man who practiced black magic and stated when he died he would dig his way up and out of the grave to arrive back and haunt you for the relax of your life? The wife put down her drink and said. . . "Nah... let the old man dig. I had him buried upside down!" If you adore something If you adore something, set it free. If it comes back, it was and always will be yours. If it never returns, it was never yours to start with. If, however, it just sits in your living room, messes up your stuff, eats your food, uses your telephone, takes your money, and never appears to have noticed that you actually set it free in the first place, You either married it or gave birth to it! The honeymoon is over A young couple got married and left on their honeymoon. When they got back, the bride immediately called her mom. "Well, how was the honeymoon?" asked the mom. "Oh mamma!" she exclaimed. "The honeymoon was wonderful! So romantic!" No sooner had she spoken the words than she burst out crying. "But mamma . . . as soon as we returned, Sam started using the most horrible language. He's been saying things I've never heard before! every these awful 4-letter words! You've got to arrive receive me and take me home... please mamma!" "Now Sarah . . ." her mom answered. "Calm down! Tell me, what could be so awful? What 4-letter words has he been using?" "Please don't make me tell you, mamma." wept the daughter. "I'm so embarrassed! They're just too awful! You've got to arrive receive me and take me home... please mamma!" "Darling, baby, you must tell me what has you so upset . . . Tell your mom these horrible 4-letter words!" Still sobbing, the bride replied, "Oh, mamma . . . words like dust, wash, iron, and cook 5 hours ago - 4 days left to answer
10 Sep 2009, 1:25 pm | click here to view more
Resolved Question: When on a honeymoon in the tropics, do you and your spouse ever dream about staying down there forever?
Lets say you and your newly wedded spouse spend a honeymoon in a tropical paradise for a week. And you both talk about what it would be like staying in the tropics forever. Live in a grass cabana, living off of tropical fruit and fish enjoying the sunshine and the romantic nights. Does that ever happen to you? What makes you go back to the hustle & bustle or back to the extreme icy and headaches? I got this idea from Young & the Restless. Adam & Sharon are in the tropics on their honeymoon and are talking about this. One of the few conflict-less scenes on a soap.
10 Feb 2010, 4:46 pm | click here to view more